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Renee Jayne

An Open Letter To The Woman Who Is Offended By “Love Yourself Naked”

in Emotional & Mental Health, Love Yourself, Love Yourself Naked, Must Read, Relationships, Renee's BLOG, The Avant-Garde Relationship on 06/05/14

This letter is to any woman who is offended by the idea of “loving yourself naked”.

Some people may think things like…

‘Is that porn?’

‘You can’t say that name on TV…’

‘You really must change that name.’

‘You don’t have the right to talk about loving your body because you’re skinny.’

The eye roll… The energy shift… The woman taking a judgmental step back from me as I share the name “love yourself naked”.

First, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have been one of my best teachers of late.

I know the importance of communicating my message with women who don’t agree with me or understand my perspective because this is how I grow. It empowers me to understand and help even more women and men.

I’m going to get directly to the point. There is nothing wrong with the human body.

I have an attitude toward life in which the naked body should not bear reason for shame no matter what size, shape or unique qualities it has.

When you feel a particular disconnection and criticism to your body then you are setting up your body on a path towards disease and your mind toward unhappiness.  There are endless scientific articles that prove how negative emotions harm the body.

Maybe you like your body, but you just don’t want to talk about it out loud.

This word “NAKED” triggers you… you have been caught in the cultural norm that naked is directly connected to porn, sex, perfectionism or what the media portrays of women.

You are completely free to have this reaction. I do want to explain, however, what you may be doing when you have it…

You may be directly feeding into that which praises perfectionism and treats women as sexual objects…  versus taking a stand against it.

You clearly do not know what I mean by loving yourself naked.

I don’t guide women to walk down the streets and take their clothes off… Far from it.

Instead, I guide them to walk down the streets and take their masks off…

I teach them to strip down the layers of shame and fear that they have been wearing around for years.  Those emotions that keep them separate from everyone else… while they judge and criticize others as well as themselves.

People bury shame when they don’t share it and it eats them alive.

You may think that food, exercise, work, money, designer clothes, promotions, recognition and Botox will fill up what you are hungry for.  These things may work for a little while. However, the masks you wear keep you hiding, and eventually you’ll need to deal with the real issue.

I’m all for modesty and respect for women and I’m also a stand for a woman owning her femininity and her creative, authentic self.

The most “naked” a woman can get is to bare her soul and get really authentic and honest with herself.  She certainly doesn’t need to take her clothes off to do that.

Oh and I know… this is scary work. It’s hard too, it’s the most challenging work I’ve ever done in my life and my clients will tell you the same but they will also tell you that their lives have been completely transformed. They will tell you that getting spiritually naked has been life changing for their relationships, their body image and their health.

Nope, not because of me, but because they have realized that the true connection to health is a path to get more naked and clean with their food choices and more naked with who they are as a woman in the body they have.

What is a woman who loves herself naked?

She is someone who has chosen the path of authenticity, and even though a challenging road at times, she’s decided to take off her masks one by one for as long as it takes to feel whole and one with her beautiful naked body.

Believe me, it’s much easier to hide “in security” behind the curtain versus step into authentically relating in the world.  It’s much easier to stick with playing it safe and choosing NOT to talk about a woman’s naked body.

But if you do that there will be shame behind your eyes when I look deeply into them. You won’t make sincere and lasting eye contact with me. You are not fully listening to me when I speak… you are somewhere else. You’re in your head. Your mind is loud.

You may see your body as just taking up space.  You may even want to be in a different body altogether.   You feel disconnected from your body because you are running it into the ground day after day.

When you don’t respect your body, your body will not respect you.

Loving yourself naked is about a deep passionate respect for your body. Women often make a huge mistake when they sacrifice passion for safety.

A deeply passionate connection with your body is the best way for another person to be deeply passionate with it too.

They cannot give you what you will not give yourself.

Naked is your courage to be vulnerable.

You have a naked body like mine and your mothers and neighbors and friends.  It’s an embracing of everything that exists in front of you and within you.

Your body is not your enemy and ignoring it isn’t the solution.

I see a lot of women taking their clothes off in the media these days and that’s a choice they make.  I’m here to tell you though, that the work begins INSIDE.

“The outward is always a reflection of the inward.”

If you are outwardly proclaiming that you don’t like these words: “love yourself naked”… then you are reflecting that you don’t like your inward self either.

There is a part of you sleeping and staying behind the curtain in your life.

I get it, you’ve reminded me that not everyone is ready to step out from behind the curtain, and that is okay.

I’ll just use it as more fuel for me to know that I am in moving in the right direction…

One where I help as many people as possible love themselves naked.

With love, Renee

PS. 

 

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I proclaim that I have had enough bullies in my li I proclaim that I have had enough bullies in my life to stand before you today a free woman who no longer bullies herself and is no longer bothered by the external bullies of the world.

Sometimes controlling, unhealthy people can show up bright and shiny at first. They will present as kind, charming and giving but like the savior you never knew you needed, they will hook you when you are at a low point looking for security or safety outside of yourself.

This “security” is an illusion. It comes from within and your highest Source, not from “this person”.

Over time and slowly they can become abusers and manipulative. You will feel on edge in your nervous system and then the gaslighting begins. It’s confusing.

You will recognize this because this person won’t question themselves or take responsibility if they make mistakes. 

They won’t ask themselves if the problem is them, they only see the problem as someone else. 

In fact they might make the other people look crazy for leaving them. 

I’ve learned a lot about myself from these people...

I’ve spent the past 20 years of my life investing in a “Doctorate of Self Worth” and recently (in 2020) receiving my “diploma” and walking across the stage 😉 
These folks have reflected back to me my own internal bully. 
Their emotional abuse has showed me all of the little ways I still was abusing myself with my negative thoughts.

The ways I was not liking myself or being a friend to myself were revealed by how I got treated by them.

They were mirrors.

Lessons have a way of repeating themselves until they are learned.

So we must learn.

No one is coming to save you!
You got your own back and you have all of the tools you need within you.

These people are powerful teachers - divinely timed.
They have reminded me how worthy I am to shine brighter and brighter.
They have shown me how I deserve great respect and to get paid for what I’m worth.
They have been enormous teachers for reminding me to speak my truth clearly and powerfully and loudly when appropriate.
Thank goodness for the lessons I’ve learned to bring me here today, sharing with you.
Thank you for the future lessons being more easy and loving and gentle. -RJ
Change is the only certainty we have. Sometimes it Change is the only certainty we have. Sometimes it’s easier to just stop resisting and putting up such a fight. Literally. It’s okay to put your sword down and relax for a moment. Even if you don’t like what you see. Take a breather. You can stop fighting. 

What if we gave ourselves permission to let go to see everything differently. 
What if we allowed, if only for a moment, to see the world, our body and life through an entirely different lens?
What if we saw from a different point of awareness?
💫 💫
✨What if we changed our relationship to consumpt ✨What if we changed our relationship to consumption?✨

For anyone who can hear this today and needs the reminder:
Even though there is an enormous amount of external chaos now in our world and systems, going inward and looking at your own personal opportunities to grow is extremely important now.
Especially now you will need more space.

Try not take take other people personally, they need space too.

When things are louder “out there” and there is so much uncertainty, it’s a cue to slow down, tune in to your internal voice and get clear on what you need right now.

Clear away all the noise so you can hear yourself.
Be in nature.
Create the quiet space you need so new habits and commitments can be developed.

It’s not that we won’t be tempted away to distraction. 
We will be, we’re human after all.

It’s not that we would ignore the external loud chatter completely or be naive to important issues that align with our values.

Instead we can be allowing the media wave to float along like a river away from you or next to you.
You don’t need to be “in it or of it”.
What if we changed our relationship to consumption?
We stopped becoming so attached to the latest sound byte... we just allow it to float along...

We focused on creating the new instead.

You are safe.
We are safe.
Stay grounded and centered in yourself in any way you can knowing that truth.
It is safe to relax into your quiet moments.

It’s time to choose to settle into your nervous system differently in the midst of the chaos.

If you need help or support, send me a DM. 

Love to all,
Renee
In order to love ourself, we must learn to LIKE ou In order to love ourself, we must learn to LIKE ourself first. We can choose to be accepting and our own best friend first. 
You don’t fall in love until you like a person first...
How are you being a friend to YOU?? 

Right now, the external chaos is going to reflect back to us how we are choosing to “like ourself” in our darkest moments and through these life experiences we are having and witnessing.

Loving ourself fully and deeply with trust and acceptance has never been more important.

In my experience, loving me is a practice every single day (sometimes every moment) and it happens when I choose to like me first.

I need to know i got a friend in me, that I will have my own back, so to speak... whether I am in bliss and joy or in pain or self sabotage. 

I realize more and more that when I’m not living my highest truth creatively, it’s more challenging to like myself. 

I believe at the end of the day, every person wants to feel that they contributed something of value and that they genuinely like themself.... ideally love themself!

Cheers to new beginnings. 

DM me a note if I can be of service on your holistic wellness and emotional mastery to Love You.
-Renee ❤️ #loveyourselfnaked
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