Have you ever heard a conversation that sounded like this before?
You are so fat. You look terrible in that. I cannot believe you let yourself go. I cannot believe I have this health issue… how did this happen to me? I’m so angry at him, he doesn’t even listen to me. I’m such a bad mom. I cannot believe she lied to me… I cannot trust her. I cannot trust anyone! I cannot live like this anymore. I’m so sick of sugar controlling me…., tomorrow I’m going to stop eating it. I can’t go out tonight, I have nothing to wear. Nothing looks good on me and I don’t have anything to hide my fat stomach.
No doubt that these moments are deeply frustrating and depressing. The dialogue we have in our own minds can lead to the biggest thing that holds us back with our health, weight loss, happiness, relationships and getting exactly what we want. I will eventually teach you how to begin to change this dialogue with yourself. At the bottom of this page, you can register for my free video series and live webinar that is coming in about a week.
For now, I want to teach you an important law that you can take with you and practice today. For me personally, I have experienced noticing the strong critical judgment I had on myself over the years and it still comes up from time to time.
The law is this: everything that happens to you is part of the divine plan, stop judging it as right or wrong or good or bad.
Often your biggest flaws are often our greatest strengths and the more you get hung up on all of the bad things going on, you will not be able to move forward, heal and evolve. For example, your weight or disease or health or relationship crisis could be your best gift. It’s hard to see that when you are in the middle of it all and you’ll never see it if you stay attached to things being “good” or “bad” or “right” or “wrong”.
There is no such thing… it all “just IS”. It’s all as it “should” be.
The issue is your perception of the experience.
Here is a story to illustrate from a fantastic children’s book that I read to my son, called Zen Shorts:
There was once an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years.
One day, his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit.
“Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically.
“Maybe,” the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it two other wild horses.
“Such good luck!” the neighbors exclaimed.
“Maybe,” replied the farmer.
The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown off, and broke his leg.
Again, the neighbors came to offer their sympathy on this misfortune.
“Such bad luck,” they said.
“Maybe,” answered the farmer.
The day after that, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army to fight in the war. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by.
“Such good luck!” cried the neighbors.
“Maybe,” said the farmer.
Good and bad get all mixed up.
You never know what will come next and how it will impact you.
Today, practice this law of non-judgment.
Judge yourself less. Judge others less and witness the situations you are in as neither good or bad.
It all just is.
Starting next week, I’m opening up the first of the 4 free videos I created on burning fat, winning at sugar cravings and getting more energy. I’m also going to be doing a LIVE webinar after these videos with Q&A. I cannot wait to connect with you.
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It Just IS,
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