(I will share the truth and growth that came from my crying episode in the week ahead along with a coaching program designed to show you exactly how to Do the work. Be the change and feel the Love while watching the results improve with your eating, body and emotional state.)
But first, I’m going to share with you a system to help you right now. I hope you will use it today or you’ll help someone else use it.
You know, it’s actually much easier to sit in a swirling whirlpool of our own self criticism, shame, anger and fears. In the midst of that chaos we feel somewhat safe and cozy and we can be resistant to get out of it.
I have a theory that has proven time and time again with hundreds of clients and in my personal life that I’ll share below.
How do you drop the deep, painful emotions you are feeling?
How do you drop the symptoms you are feeling that you are sometimes seeing right before your eyes…? How do you drop the memories of the events? How do you drop your limiting beliefs?
I’m going to teach you today with a story.
I just picked up my son, Manny, from school. He was 3 years old at the time. He get’s in the car and asks, “mama, did you bring a snack for me?”
I said, as a matter of fact, I did. I then pulled out a small bag with a small chunk of some local grass-fed cheese that I know he loves.
He doesn’t always get a snack in the car and doesn’t eat cheese too often either so I assumed he would be jumping for joy!
I also told him that I had a surprise for him, as I was grabbing the snack.
What he didn’t know was I was about to take him to our local health food store to buy him a special smoothie and pick up the ingredients to make a snack for his school event.
Upon grabbing the cheese, he started yelling out loud…
Manny: This is too small, I want more. Where is the rest of the cheese?
Me: That’s all I have, Manny. Enjoy what you have.
Manny: loud cries and sobbing begin.
Me: i’m shocked and wondering what happened at school today. He is so emotional.
Me: Manny, I’m going to take the cheese back because you are not making a good choice right now. When you can appreciate the snack you have and eat it nicely, let me know.
Manny: yelling is now happening, screaming and kicking the seat like crazy.
(I probably have seen this behavior out of Manny two other times in his life so I am surprised at this point. I keep my calm and I begin to drive the car to the store)
Manny: yelling, kicking and crying is getting so loud.
Me: i am physically uncomfortable. I decide I cannot say anything at this point so I decide to turn on some Jason Mraz music (Manny loves him) to break the state in the car a little. To help him snap out of his anger. Well… it backfired.
Manny: he went temporarily mad and started yelling at me to turn off the music.
(I did NOT turn it off by the way. I just kept driving with calm confidence and remaining peaceful).
We arrived at the store and I parked the car.
I turned around to look at a very distraught, crying and unhappy little boy.
Here is what happened next.
Me: Manny, can you close your eyes?
Manny: no response but he did close his eyes between the loud cries and sobs.
Me: Can you feel the warm sunshine on the skin of your arm right now. Doesn’t that feel warm and nice?
Open your ears now, can you hear the birds chirping outside in that tree near the car… listen closely for them. chirp, chirp, chirp
Can you hear the sound of cars? Now hear the birds again. Now listen for the sound of my voice speaking to you.
Now feel that sun on your skin again and take a deep breath.
(he listened to the breathing part… yay!)
Now feel your body in your seat, and the sun on your body and how warm it is and now listen to all the sounds at the same time. Okay, take another breath.
Okay, Manny, now open your eyes and look into mine.
Me: How do you feel right now, Manny?
Manny: I feel good…. (pause).
Me: Do you notice the way you were able to calm your body and sadness down in just a couple minutes, Manny, and now you feel peaceful.
Manny: yes… Mommy…?
Me: Yes, Manny.
Manny: I’m really sorry I acted that way (looks down at his lap)
Me: (I said this in my head) holy shit… that really worked…
Me: thank you for saying that, I’m sorry too.
Me: This peaceful feeling you have right now is called the present moment. Can you breathe again? I am going to take a couple deep breaths myself. It makes me feel good to breathe.
Me: I want to share a secret with you Manny.
Me: There is always enough…. enough cheese, enough time, enough love, enough money. I hope you learn from this that you were so worried about not having enough that you forgot about what was right in front of you… in this case a really yummy piece of cheese and a happy mommy who wanted to surprise you. What a lesson for you to learn that you can change how you are feeling so fast though. I’m really proud of you.
Manny: I’m proud of me too.
Take these 3 steps.
1) Notice your emotions and try to name them. “I feel angry, pissed, sad, resentful, etc”
2) Change your environment if you can. Get up and change seats or go to a different place altogether if you can. Surrounding yourself in nature is ideal.
3) Tap into each of your senses. Close your eyes and begin focusing on each one of your senses individually. Touch, taste, smell, sight, hearing all while you are breathing. Then go back in forth between all of them over and over while taking deep breaths. Relax your body.
4) Remember that your feelings, beliefs, emotions, symptoms and events are a part of you but they are NOT who you are. I recommend working with me in my coaching program to dig up the root of these limiting beliefs permanently. I use the various modalities and the love yourself naked skills I possess to show you how.
If you don’t learn to drop your “story”, what happens next is you bury the emotions with food, too much work, unhappy relationships, addictive substances … sugar in particular. The result is extra fat, poor sleep, depression, health issues and poor nutrition, dependent relationships and unhappiness.
I want you to be happy… truly happy.
I want to show you how too. Click here for access to my coaching program. I’m so excited to share this with you. Space is limited, it’s exceptional and you’ll step forward into doing the work, being the change and loving yourself completely.
Yes, this is totally possible. Try me.
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