I found out yesterday that some of the women within my 6 month group course did something unforeseen. I felt it was worth sharing here.
The backstory: within our 6 months together, yesterday was the first day where the group does a whole food lymphatic cleanse together. The group centers on emotional wellbeing/regulation and somatic healing and nutrition/holistic health.
One woman was going to work where she knew there would be pizza and treats (this happens to so many with those work time snacks).
The rest of the women knew her situation well.
She was afraid of succumbing to the carbohydrate and sweet tooth ways that brought her to this program to begin with.
These women have learned that it’s about so much more than the food. They showed up here because they knew they needed more healthy emotional intimacy and trust with themself and other women (and men).
So these women gathered together in support of their sister and they planned a “virtual lunch” together.
They gathered virtually at lunch. How incredible!
She didn’t eat the pizza. And that is great, but not the entire point.
The point is two big things we often miss:
1) She knew she would have been held either way (pizza or no pizza)
2) She opened to RECEIVE being held and loved by another.
It’s this level of trust and receiving that changes us and our relationship with food and our body… combined with healthy foods.
What isn’t often talked about is how hard we need to work sometimes to learn to RECEIVE being HELD by another.
We so easily give, give and give and yet have no idea how to receive what we give.
This is a problem and the consequence to that problem usually looks like numbing out in a tub of ice cream, chocolate or bags of chips.
If we were raised not trusting, the very thing we desire most (trust) is the thing we also fear the most.
Oh boy is that a conundrum.
And one, that I’m well versed in personally and professionally.
Community is a big part of what shifts it, along with having someone guide you on how to open up.
On a side note, I am so grateful for being able to witness humans in these ways and in this life.
It is truly the biggest blessing. Thank you, thank you.
Who can you hold space for today?
Who can you reach out to and check in on today?
How can you put yourself out there (albeit vulnerably) to a trusted friend and ask for help… and then RECEIVE IT.
Reach out here if I can be a support to you.
