Are You All In?

Hello everybody; Renee Heigel here and today I am speaking about being all in, this unwavering commitment to self, to work, to career, to relationships, to your children, to spirituality.  Whatever it is, how can you be all in?  What does it take to be all in and also, once you make that decision and you are all in, what happens then?  What beauty unfolds for you?

I had this opportunity today to be speaking with a mentor of mine and he shared this story about him being out on the golf course that I found was perfect to share with you today.  He loves geese but he often finds that when he’s out on the golf course, he has these encounters of these geese that come up and they’re barking, they’re sticking out their tongues, they’re hissing at him and they are doing everything they possibly can to protect their young, protect their babies.

There is this unwavering confidence, this all-in; there’s no way that you’re getting anywhere near their babies – no way.  They may be this little and you might be this big but there’s no way.  I find that so intriguing and I find it filled with love, this passion.  What would that feel like?

As a mother I can relate to this because there’s nothing that would get between me and my baby.  What does it mean to be all in because a lot of times we think we’re all in but we’re actually fueled by fear or maybe we think we’re all in but we’re fueled by anxiety and that we live our life in maybe a stressful state so we work, work, work and we try to get everything done because we’re all in but what is left is burn-out, exhaustion, weight-gain.

So what is really about being all in?  Well there’s a few things.  One of them is visualizing what it would feel like when you’re already there because what I have found in my personal experience is that a lot of guilt comes up when you think about:  I want to be that kind of mother, I want to be that kind of father, I want to be that kind of employee, I want to be that kind of business owner, I want that kind of body, I want to lose the 20 pounds but I haven’t done it yet.

So all of a sudden guilt comes up and what happens when we have guilt?  We stay stuck and we don’t get anywhere so we need to be able to turn that guilt into a yes, I want that.  “Yes, and…”  So how do we get that is we channel in a visualization of what it would feel like to actually be in that place.  So it feels good and there’s pleasure so I just used this mother example because we’re talking about geese and I can relate to it.  So if you’re a mother out there, what would it feel like to be all in as a mother and the pleasure that comes from that?

And when it comes to weight loss?  So often we focus on how we need to cut out different foods and how we can’t have this and how we need to restrict ourselves and how we have to diet in order to get this and what is actually backward there is it’s really about us surrendering.  It’s about being all in.  It’s a commitment to saying, “I will do this because I want to lose weight, not because I have to or I’m going to try.”

And what happens when you want to lose weight is then you begin to focus on – very important here – all the things that you can have.  I can have this and I have the opportunity to have this now and this.  And now you visualize what it would feel like to step into that body that is 15 pounds lighter.

And in your relationships, what would it be like if you were all in?  If you put everything you had into it, what could manifest in your life?  What about your spiritual relationship with God or spirit or universe or whatever it is that you call it?  What happens if you are all in?

So how you get there is you make a choice to find the pleasure in it.  You visualize yourself being there versus sitting over on the other side of wanting it, feeling guilty because you’re not there, or channeling the energy that comes from anxiety or fear so it’s this quiet confidence about being all in.

I want you today to really look at the areas of your life where you would like to be all in and to really ponder what it would feel like and what it would look like and what pleasures would come when you make the decision to be all in.

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