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6 Tools On How To Be Truly Happy Right Now That Really Work

in Emotional & Mental Health, Health Tips, Judgment, Love Yourself, Love Yourself Naked, Renee's BLOG, technique on 05/21/15

Once upon a time, I had someone ask me, “Renee, are you happy?”  I paused for a moment and looked at them with blank eyes and a little shock… and I said, “No, I’m not happy.”

 It took me by surprise to see that I was living my life without joy and never stopped to really consider how it could be any different. This was a huge wake up call for me.

I wanted to be happy in my life, in fact, I wanted to be the happiest person I knew and at that particular time in my life, true joy and happiness seemed so far away. I could barely see the light.

I didn’t know that my joy and happiness were actually just a few breaths away from me. I didn’t see that my happiness and joy came from inside of me and not from outward circumstances.

The other day I was walking downtown near my home and I saw this sign that said “start your weekend on fleek”

Hmm… “on fleek” about my weekend… Oh, I probably have to tell you about what “on fleek” means because I didn’t know that new internet slang term until about 6 months ago, but before I get to that wisdom, I gotta share that on this particular day, I just felt like I wanted to cry constantly. Today I want to share 6 useful tools about how we find happiness when it seems so far and out of reach.

I wanted to know why I felt this sensation of tears welling up, tightness in my throat. Yes, my senses and empathy run stronger during this time in my cycle, no doubt.  I wanted to feel excited and like this moment, my day or my weekend would be “on fleek”.

What is “on fleek”?

I learned this term when I was hanging for the day with some friends doing a photo shoot… Boswell and Melissa. I guess the term dates back to 2003, but it means “smooth, nice, sweet”.

For me, it wasn’t the term that triggered me on the sign, it was the idea that I didn’t feel in alignment. I felt like I wanted to hibernate.  I wanted to crawl under a rock and cry. I didn’t know why and I wasn’t allowing myself the space to do it. I was pushing on through.

 

 

As it turned out I needed a lot of downtime, mediation, laughter, herbs, yoga and healthy foods. When that was done, I realized that I also needed to let myself open up and trust… Both physically and emotionally. I was reminded that it’s all figured out, I’m safe whichever path I choose.  And…. I get to live “now” and that’s the best gift.  I gave myself permission to feel my feelings and confront my fears. I chose to love myself enough and then I began to love my life. I appreciated the flowers and birds chirping and the beautiful elderly couple who walked down the street hand in hand. I diligently noticed my thoughts so I could keep my focus on these gorgeous gifts around me, instead of any loud thoughts from earlier in the day. That present moment space feels like freedom to me. That is what I crave most, freedom. I want to create and teach and dance and move and love… Part of my urge to cry was a deep feeling of missing my son that day and it was also a deep yearning for some quality time with ME.

start your week on fleek with Renee HeigelHere are the 6 best tools to bring you out of your funk or not so happy time are as follows:

*Give yourself the space to sit with yourself and just be.  Breathe and move your body in whatever way feels best.

*Dance it out – seriously- moving your body, moves your mind

*Meditation practice (sit in silence for 10 + minutes and notice your thoughts)

*Call a friend and share yourself

*Spend time in nature

*Eat veggies or a have a drink with high vitamin and mineral contents.

And remember that if you want a smooth ride and an “on fleek” week or weekend… you must remember to love yourself enough to create space for yourself. It’s this space (even if it’s a 5-10 minutes) that will open you up to the fact that your joy comes from within, not from what’s going on outside of you.

PS. Oh and note that at the time of this, we are experience Mercury Retrograde. I never used to believe in this but now I pay attention because I have seen first hand the effects on life when Mercury (the planet) decides to stop moving or go backwards.  It’s a time when we want to hibernate more, slow down, be more introspective and grow through some old patterns that don’t serve us

PPS.  If you have been thinking about making changes to more fully love your life, I have 2 openings currently for my Love Your Life Coaching — a one on one coaching program that shows you how to Love Your Life, your body and be the happiest person you know.  I’m doing free 30 minute phone interviews with people for this right now. In this session you’ll discover the biggest breakthrough holding you back in loving your life and the steps you need to take to get the happy outcome you desire.  If you are ready for this, email Jackie (our chief of client happiness) right away so you can schedule with me.  These two spots will fill fast and if you’re ready, take action now: support@reneeheigel.com

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For anyone who can hear this today and needs the reminder:
Even though there is an enormous amount of external chaos now in our world and systems, going inward and looking at your own personal opportunities to grow is extremely important now.
Especially now you will need more space.

Try not take take other people personally, they need space too.

When things are louder “out there” and there is so much uncertainty, it’s a cue to slow down, tune in to your internal voice and get clear on what you need right now.

Clear away all the noise so you can hear yourself.
Be in nature.
Create the quiet space you need so new habits and commitments can be developed.

It’s not that we won’t be tempted away to distraction. 
We will be, we’re human after all.

It’s not that we would ignore the external loud chatter completely or be naive to important issues that align with our values.

Instead we can be allowing the media wave to float along like a river away from you or next to you.
You don’t need to be “in it or of it”.
What if we changed our relationship to consumption?
We stopped becoming so attached to the latest sound byte... we just allow it to float along...

We focused on creating the new instead.

You are safe.
We are safe.
Stay grounded and centered in yourself in any way you can knowing that truth.
It is safe to relax into your quiet moments.

It’s time to choose to settle into your nervous system differently in the midst of the chaos.

If you need help or support, send me a DM. 

Love to all,
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In order to love ourself, we must learn to LIKE ou In order to love ourself, we must learn to LIKE ourself first. We can choose to be accepting and our own best friend first. 
You don’t fall in love until you like a person first...
How are you being a friend to YOU?? 

Right now, the external chaos is going to reflect back to us how we are choosing to “like ourself” in our darkest moments and through these life experiences we are having and witnessing.

Loving ourself fully and deeply with trust and acceptance has never been more important.

In my experience, loving me is a practice every single day (sometimes every moment) and it happens when I choose to like me first.

I need to know i got a friend in me, that I will have my own back, so to speak... whether I am in bliss and joy or in pain or self sabotage. 

I realize more and more that when I’m not living my highest truth creatively, it’s more challenging to like myself. 

I believe at the end of the day, every person wants to feel that they contributed something of value and that they genuinely like themself.... ideally love themself!

Cheers to new beginnings. 

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