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Renee Jayne

21 Ways To Love Yourself Up

in Cleanse, Love Yourself, Renee's BLOG on 10/27/11

For those of you who are just joining us or still discovering what Love Yourself Naked™ is all about I want to share one key component of the system today. It’s NOT only about feeling great in the skin you’re in, although loving your naked body is our goal.

Today we dive into self love and care.

Are you someone who has big dreams but you often hide in the shadows because you are afraid to step forward and be in your spotlight? Do you often focus on the parts of your body (thighs, stomach, a$$) that you wish were smaller, toner or tighter? Are you frustrated because you don’t know what to eat? Do you constantly put yourself last and you rarely make it on your own to do list?

What I have found in my coaching practice is that everyone wants Love Yourself Naked™ and we often fit into one or more of these categories:

1) You don’t believe it’s possible.

2) You are pissed off and have given up trying.

3) You lack the motivation but still want it.

4) You are intrigued by the idea but you’re sick and tired of feeling bad about yourself, failed diets and your health.

5) You see beauty in yourself but you have unconscious blocks that keep you from owning it.

6) What body? I gave up on that along time ago.

I have spent years of my life not giving to myself and it wasn’t until I started looking at my relationships with others that I saw the true importance of my own self –love.  In the past, I used relationships and food to fill up my void and empty feeling in my gut. It wasn’t until I became aware of this void that I started searching for other ways to fill it with my most important relationship . The one with ME. Ironically, loving me was much harder than I realized and I would often find ways to distract myself from self love and care. There are days when I want to fall back into my old patterns so I use tools to walk on the path of love versus sabotage. The interesting thing is that my mind was so used to negative and self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors that it seemed unnatural to me to practice self-love and care at first. Can you relate to this?

Working on our relationships, especially the one with YOU is a form of primary food. Primary food consists of relationships, career, spirituality and exercise and unless we have these 4  “foods” in balance the actual meals we put into our mouths will not make a profound difference, at least not long term. As Marianne Williamson says in A Course in Weight Loss, many might feel that overeating or binging on food is an ‘indulgence of self but it is actually a profound rejection of self. It’s a moment of self-betrayal and self-punishment.” This is the opposite of a commitment to your well-being. So let’s re-commit and show some loving appreciation to YOU.

Today I’m sharing 21 ways that I have loved myself up over the years and some of the self-care principles of Love Yourself Naked™.

In the comments below, I want to hear you and know about all of the ways you love and appreciate yourself. This list could be over 100 so let’s start adding to the list together today.

  1. Learn to say no.  I know many of you feel overwhelmed by the fact you say yes all the time so practice the art of “No” so you can say “Yes” to you.
  2. Meditate. Clear a space. Quiet your mind. Breathe. Let your thoughts come up and let them go.
  3. Light some candles. Clean up a bit and light some candles during the day. I have soy candles lit daily in my home.
  4. Enjoy healthy, pleasurable meals. Make a nice veggie dinner that will give you energy and make you feel clean.
  5. Journal. Start with anything, a to-do list or brain dump. See what comes up and out.
  6. Dance. Put some music on and move. Close your eyes, move your hips and let go.
  7. Sleep in. Pick a day, turn off the alarm and sleep.
  8. Take a bath. Be leisurely. Light some candles; use some salts or a gentle scrub on your body.
  9. Yoga. Take a class and remember to breathe.
  10. Make a vision board. I make 1-3 each year. I love this and it’s a great way to use old magazines before your recycle them.
  11. Use affirmation cards. This is a powerful way to practice expressing your authentic self. “I AM BEAUTIFUL”
  12. Oil rub down. After you’ve bathed and while still in the shower, rub your body down with your favorite oil and as you rub each part focus on how much you appreciate that body part.
  13. Cleanse. Eat some cleansing foods, juice some veggies and stay tuned for the anxiously approaching 18 Day Love Yourself Naked Challenge in January 2012.
  14. Play outside. Go outside and run, act like a child, walk through the woods, swing on a swing.
  15. Read a magazine/book. Simply sit and read. No phone. No food. No TV. No distractions.
  16. Use your creativity. Create art, arrange photos, paint, draw, decorate, build, etc.
  17. Clear the clutter. Cleaning can be therapeutic. Donate. Go through that box you haven’t looked in since you were a child.
  18. Get fresh flowers. I love doing this. Of all the things we spend $5 that are unhealthy, bring some flowers into your home and a smile to your face (or pick your own).
  19. Visit a farmer’s market. There is nothing like getting outside, buying fresh food and talking with passionate, smiling people.
  20. Nourish yourself with water. Drink a ton of water and breathe gently through your nose between gulps. Relax.
  21. Book a session with a practitioner. I have a list of people that support me. Acupuncture, Reiki, Chiropractor, massage, pedicure, manicure, health coach, life coach.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and self care secrets below in the comments.
Thank you for tuning in and being here with us.
Lots of LOVE!
xoxoxoxo


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Good morning ☀️ Good morning ☀️
When I look back on my life and consider the relat When I look back on my life and consider the relationships I attracted back then (that happened to be the most toxic or trauma bonded) it was for two big reasons.

1) unconscious seeking for security in things/people/sources outside of me.

Old Belief: “Once I have this, I will be safe. I will feel secure, everything will be okay”

Our security and safety come mostly from within. Certainly, more money or the next “magic pill” or quick fix or relationship can inspire some security, for a while...

It will not last or it will feel like a toxic relationship for as long as we are not Sourced in security and grounded within ourself. 

Note: we often need to look at the “bully’s, emotional abusive or passive aggressive relationships to see this. 
This could be with others or with yourself! Yes, you can “bully” yourself.

2) using things outside of me to cope due to dysregulated nervous system. (This is often not conscious to us at first)

Old belief: “once I have this it will help me “feel better”

These coping mechanisms work for a short while, until they do not anymore. 

(Food, the next “diet or workout plan”, the next shopping spree or purchase, drugs, alcohol, work, relationship, pharmaceuticals, etc)

We won’t be able to hold these things with any balance with a nervous system and emotional system that is dysregulated. 

Your nervous system is a complex network of neurons...
Basically, it’s the control center of your body!

All of your muscles, glands, sensations, smells, hearing, taste, touch, higher self are telling your body what to do.

Your nervous system is interpreting your body’s responses constantly.

We use things outside of us to try and regulate when we feel “out of balance” and sometimes those things just don’t serve us.

The crazy thing is: we will think the solution is in this “thing we need to have ASAP” and the solution we seek actually has nothing to do with “the thing”.

We’ve been taught the wrong way. 
Answers to things rarely come from outside of us.

Many of us were not taught about our nervous system and how it’s impacted by childhood trauma and how it’s the core reason we create a lot of the situations we are in (good or bad).
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Fantastic question....? Because big profits do no Fantastic question....?

Because big profits do not historically come from healthy people (when it comes to selling the anecdotes to their pain, anyway)

Because healthy people aren’t as easy to manipulate.

Because individuals with strong immune systems need less pharmaceuticals. This impacts Big Pharma’s profits and entire way of business.

Because mandating (I actually don’t like that word, but it works here) ... mandating vitamins and minerals would empower health and individual choice to choose health for one self.  Large corporations selling big pharmaceuticals, large amounts of sugar, fast food and factory and processed foods do not want empowered people because they are harder to sell to.
And big government structures that are run by unethical people can manipulate people who are vitamin deficient, because they get sicker more quickly.
What if your desire to get the lasting results you What if your desire to get the lasting results you’ve always wanted with your life (food, body, relationships, financial) was not about giving more attention to these things? 

What if your attention to the boring nothingness of life began to outweigh the attention you give to all the things you want right now?

Sounds silly, right?! 
Maybe backwards from what we've been taught culturally. 

We were taught to break free from life-long patterns of discontent by consuming information outside of us: learning, doing, pushing, striving.

And yet, it's not working so well, right?  At least not long-term. 

There is a place for education outside of us, yes, however, it doesn't do much for a nervous system that cannot hold the complexity of how we want to grow and evolve within that education and new wisdom.

People are trying to learn to "be still" and calm down their anxiety and maybe even meditate but their bodies cannot hold it yet. 
They struggle! 

So when your physical body and nervous system regulates...
 
Your whole game is changed as you learn to be with yourself. 
To be in your body, with your emotions and nervous system differently than you ever have before. 

Then your system can hold the capacity for the change you have always wanted. 

Make sense?

Love,
Renee 

PS. If I can help you with this radical shift in your life and you're interested in learning about The Somatic Freedom System that I created, send me a DM.
YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS IS MASSIVE AND YOU CAN DREAM NE YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS IS MASSIVE AND YOU CAN DREAM NEW DREAMS FOR NOT ONLY YOU, BUT FOR ALL OF HUMANITY. IMAGINE A RESPECTFUL, WIN-WIN SITUATION. CO-CREATE WITH YOUR TRIBE THE WORLD YOU DESIRE 💖
Rebirth, Adventure and Relationship 😉 Happy Ea Rebirth, Adventure and Relationship 😉

Happy Easter and Passover to all who celebrate. 
Also, important... HAPPY 4-4 BIRTHDAY to this wonderful man. 
(I know, I’m posting a day late)

After taking a purposeful and committed 2 years off of dating and romantic relationships, I opened myself up to dating last year (a 2020 version of it, 😉 ). 

During that time, a friend reached out to me and asked if he could give my phone number to a single friend of his.
I said yes. 
After a while, it felt strange to date others, so I stopped. 

Now, 7 months later and I don’t want to hide now 😉 

Meet Matt. ❤️ We are extremely compatible in all the ways and have so much fun together. Our purposes feel aligned and so does our relationship. So now you know ✨
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